How to Cope with Anticipatory Grief at Work

Death can impact our personal lives and relationships in a myriad of ways, leaving us feeling depleted at work. But how does this impact change when we’re anticipating a death? While the average length of bereavement leave is three to five days, there is even less institutional support for anticipatory grief, or grief that occurs before an impending loss.

Building a support network is fundamental to dealing with anticipatory grief. Be explicit with your colleagues about the type of emotional support you need, and create a back up plan for your responsibilities if you have to leave on short notice. As grief can often lead to forgetfulness, ask a trusted colleague to check over your work to prevent any costly mistakes. This support network extends outside of the office; while you attend to your assignments, request that a friend help with any care-taking responsibilities. As for shifting your own practices, practice saying “no” to clarify priorities. Planning ahead relieves stress, and helps you prioritize self-care.